on owning my gifts

Saturday evening found me standing in my study, going through my sermon one last time for the next morning. I’d put a big pile of food and interior design magazines on top of my desk, hoisted my cookbook stand from the kitchen on top of them to create a makeshift lectern to practise with. It…

What I want you to know about having a miscarriage

Important note: every woman’s response, every couple’s response, to a miscarriage is intensely personal and unique to them. So some of what I write here will not be true for you, some may even have been the opposite. But the topic of miscarriage is so rarely discussed that I wanted to start this conversation, so…

on a forgotten winter solstice

Yesterday was Winter Solstice, a fact I only remembered late in the day, over dinner, when my mother-in-law mentioned it to someone and my intermediate Danish caught the comment. I had half-thought I would “celebrate” the Solstice this year, in my own way. So my intitial feeling was one of disappointment. I’d missed it. It…

when advent feels empty

I hold this wee sleeping boy in my arms while his happy new parents chatter over my head about the birth and the sleepless nights and his little personality. He’s peaceful now, curled into my body, one leg lifted funnily up as if he’s stretching. A winter gift, waited for these past months. I think…

on one year in Luxembourg

Photo source: Standing Stone, by Annette S Thomson, on Flickr We’ve been in Luxembourg just over a year now. Part of me can’t believe it’s gone by so fast, and then again, Brussels already feels like a lifetime ago. A year ago we were just figuring everything out: how to take the bus into town,…

on comparison

My husband has taken up ”training for a marathon” with some friends of his. He says up front he’s not expecting to be able to actually run the marathon (he has dodgy knees) but that the training process in itself is good for him. He asked me a few times if I wanted to join…